Today at supper, I said to a friend that he is mean for replying back to his customers when they called him : Hey kid. Kiwii said I'm meaner. Haha! I guess it's true. I'm quite direct but that's my way of being true to my friends.
I said what I think so I don't feel the need to hide what I think. I guess it's from my past experiences. Although, it has wrecked my friendship with some people in the past or they are afraid to tell me things without me judging them. I don't call them idiot or anything, I just tell them straight away what I think whether they like it or not.
Now you know a little more about Christina XD.
My friend said I'm mean
November 2nd, 2007 at 07:55 pm
November 2nd, 2007 at 08:12 pm
November 2nd, 2007 at 10:39 pm
1. is it true?
2. is it necessary? (which is not the same as "helpful")
and if I can say yes to those, then I ask myself:
3. Is it hurtful?
and if the answer to that is yes, then I try to find a way to achieve the point, but take out the sting. I think that being direct is helpful, but causing pain obscures the message: people get focused on the fact that their feelings got hurt more than what's being said to them.
November 3rd, 2007 at 07:48 am
November 3rd, 2007 at 09:02 pm
i've stopped myself saying a lot of stupid stuff just by asking myself that question. i find also that people take what i say more seriously when i do say something, because i'm not always commenting on EVERYTHING, and i'm not always telling them what i think ALL the time. i guess it's the classic "less is more".